Singer 9ice sat down for an interview with veteran TV personality Funmi
Iyanda and they got to discuss 9ice's broken marriage specifically and
marriages in general.
Iyanda recalled the last time she saw him was at
his house when he was still married to his first wife. She said she was
sad that his marriage hit the rocks and asked if he was married again as
the papers report. This he denied.
When Funmi asked him to clear the air on his status, the Gongo Aso singer launched into an explanation on the problem with modern day marriages.
When Funmi asked him to clear the air on his status, the Gongo Aso singer launched into an explanation on the problem with modern day marriages.
"I'm single
but I'm not searching because it's not part of my priority right now.
I've dealt with this topic so many times and people just tend to take
the negative side of it but it's like they don't understand what I'm
saying because they're not in my shoe."
He continued:
"Marriage is not for this generation... I have my reasons(for saying
that) because, as a Nigerian, as a Yoruba man, there are some culture
and tradition that you're being taught when you're being brought up as a
man. You want the same thing from your wife (but) you're not going to
get it from today's woman. because then we have exposure. They are the
ones that sent us to school. And I still want my woman to serve me food
and kneel down. Ejo Aunty, who's going to do that for me now?"
He
added: "but you're not going to get that as a man, so we today's men,
we need to get that into our thick skull that you're not going to get
the same thing your mom is giving to your dad. You are going to get
something different because who you're getting married to is quite
different from your mom. But we are not ready. That's why you see that
this generation are losing marriages, six months and it's dissolved.
He
went on to advise people to marry for the right reasons and not out of
societal pressures and asked that people are certain beyond all
reasonable doubt before going into marriage. He warned couples not to go
through with marriages if they become uncertain before walking down the
aisle. Citing his wedding as an example, the father-of- four revealed
that he had a moment of doubt before he tied the knot but had to go
through with it for fear of what people will say.
"Before
you go to the altar, like five to ten minutes, your mind will be
telling you that this thing is not going to work," he said and when
Iyanda asked if that happened to him, he replied, "It happened to me,
but I felt it because I was like 'come on, I have so many things to lose
more than what I'm going to gain'. Because if I do that, it's like I'm
against the rest of the world."
He advised: "So
we should hundred percent get married for what will make you happy.
Regardless of the culture, regardless of your parents, get married
because you want to get married. Get married because it will make you
happy. Don't get married because Tinuke got married."